9/5/01
The Spiritual Chicks^SM Speak Out!

I'm a good person, 
so why do I have so much trouble getting what I want? 

Because, believe it or not, it's not how good you are that determines what you get in life.   "Good" is a relative term anyway.  Ten-to-one if you're spending most of your time trying to be a saint, you're probably just playing it safe.  As difficult as it can be to accept, keeping everyone else happy at the expense of our own well being is not the recipe for a fulfilling life, and here's the real shocker---it's not "spiritual."  The spiritual path leads to freedom, not never-ending obligation and compliance.  It goes without saying that we should treat other people fairly with love and compassion.  But shouldn't we also treat ourselves the same way?  Being overly good is a trap that puts us in long-term victim mode.  And we all know that game too well.  It's time to break free of the people-pleasing routine.  Do what you really want to do. Other people might not like it at first, but they'll get over it.  Hey, they might even start doing what they really want to do too.   Now that's spiritual.